Dear You,
Let me tell you a secret most women only whisper to each other when the lights are low and the wine is sweet:
A woman doesn’t get wet because you turned her on.
She gets wet because you made her body feel safe enough to open.
Yes… open.
Because our bodies don’t “react.”
They respond.
So sit with me for a minute.
Let me talk to you like a woman who isn’t shy, isn’t holding back, and isn’t here to protect your ego.
I’m here to tell you the soft, warm, honest truth men rarely get to hear.
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First Truth: Wetness Starts Long Before You Touch Us
You think it starts with your hands.
We know it starts with your presence.
Before you ever kiss us, our body is already deciding:
“Can I soften for him?”
“Will he rush me?”
“Does he know how to touch a woman… or will he fumble and force it?”
You can make us wet with nothing but your energy.
Your voice dropping a little.
Your eyes lingering a second too long.
Your body close enough to warm our skin.
Your patience – God, your patience.
A woman melts for a man who knows how to stand close without grabbing.
That alone can lubricate more than touching ever could.
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Second Truth: Dryness Is Not Rejection
If only men understood this.
A woman can be wanting you so badly her whole body aches…
and still be dry.
Why?
Because her mind is louder than her desire.
Stress.
Overthinking.
Nerves.
Hormones.
Fear of being judged.
Fear of being rushed.
Fear of disappointing you.
Our wetness is shy.
It hides when our mind is loud.
So don’t take dryness as “she’s not into me.”
Sometimes it means we want you so much it makes us tense.
And tension kills wetness, but not attraction.
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Third Truth: Foreplay Isn’t a Pre-Game, It’s the Whole Game
Let me say this with my chest:
The way you undress us with your eyes
is more important than the way you undress us with your hands.
Women get wet from what we feel, not what you do.
The slow anticipation.
The heat between us.
Your hand hovering at our waist before touching.
Your breath brushing our neck.
The way you tease without rushing.
You think a kiss turns us on.
No.
The moment right before the kiss does.
The moment we feel your hand slide behind our back
and your lips pause against ours
like you’re savoring the permission…
That’s what makes us wet.
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Fourth Truth: Lube Isn’t Cheating, It’s Intelligence
Let me talk to your pride for a second.
A confident man brings lube.
Not because he can’t get her wet…
but because he wants the night to feel too good to forget.
Every woman remembers the man who cared about her comfort
as much as he cared about the sex.
Lube is not a plan B.
Lube is a strategy for deeper pleasure:
- smoother strokes
- less friction
- more sensitivity
- more relaxation
- longer lasting
- wetter wetness
And here’s the dirty truth:
When a man pulls out a lube without shame?
It turns us on even more.
Because it tells us you’re not here to perform,
you’re here for pleasure.
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Fifth Truth: Wetness Is Emotional Intelligence in Liquid Form
When we trust you, we open.
When we feel wanted, we soften.
When you touch us like our body is poetry…
we get wet enough to drown in.
Wetness is not “she’s horny.”
It’s “she feels safe.”
It’s “she feels seen.”
It’s “she’s ready to receive you.”
That depth of wetness, the kind that coats your fingers, your lips, your skin,
It comes from emotional intimacy meeting physical desire.
The kind where your first stroke feels like she’s inviting you in with her whole body.
The kind where she wraps her legs around you with no hesitation.
Where she arches without thinking.
Where she doesn’t hide her sounds.
Where she looks you in the eyes because she feels it too deeply not to.
That kind of wetness isn’t physical.
It’s spiritual.
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So Here’s the Real Lesson…
If you want a woman dripping for you,
do not rush her body.
Invite her.
Make her feel admired.
Desired.
Safe.
Seen.
Respected.
Teased.
Tasted slowly.
Held like her softness matters.
Do that…
and she won’t just be wet.
She’ll be open.
And a woman who opens for you
is a woman who will take you deeper than you’ve ever gone.
With her body.
Her breath.
Her pleasure.
Her trust.
And trust me,
Wetness is just the beginning.